Overcoming Dark Days as a Mom
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Depression isn’t something we like to talk about, especially as moms. There’s often a stigma around mental health, as if struggling means we’re somehow less capable or that our faith isn’t strong enough. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned in my years of parenting and homeschooling, it’s that God can meet us in our darkest moments and provide us with hope. Some of us struggle with clinical depression due to a chemical imbalance. As the colder months settle in, many of us may feel that heaviness known as Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), a type of depression that can come with shorter days and less sunlight. Or maybe we just get in a funk; it happens to the best of us.
Overcoming Dark Days
I can’t say I’ve ever been in a place where the pain seemed too much to bear, where suicide seemed like the only way out, but I do know what it’s like to feel as if life isn’t going to get better. I’ve been in that dark place where hope is more elusive than a red-and-white-striped hat in a Where’s Waldo? book. My depression wasn’t chemical; it was heart-full-of-sin-depression. I didn’t need medication or medical treatment (although I do think it’s necessary for some people). What I needed most was to admit my mistakes and ask God to remove my sin.
"People ruin their lives by their own foolishness and then are angry at the Lord." -PROVERBS 19:3
Depression looked different for me when I was younger. My darkest days were when I was a teen, alone and pregnant, feeling like my life was over.
Out of shame, I’d dropped out of high school to do my work at home. The father of my child had a new girlfriend within weeks of my telling him about the baby. My friends at high school were going on with their senior year without me.
Even in the moments when I dared to be excited about my baby, sadness crept in. As my pregnancy progressed I was reminded—month by month—of the abortion I’d chosen to have just one-and-a-half years earlier.
The pain of my past decisions added to the pain of my circumstances.
As time went on, I spent most days in bed, sleeping until noon. I didn’t want to see or talk to anyone. During my free time, I worked on finishing the last of my high school credits, but part of me wondered, What’s the use? My life is totally ruined, anyway. I didn’t see any way to overcome my depression in those dark days.
Six months into my pregnancy, I turned back to God, asking Him to take over my life, hoping He’d turn it into something good.
I had no way to know then that God would turn my story into something beautiful. Now, as a homeschooling mom, I’m grateful for the joy and purpose God has given me. But I understand that even in this blessed life, darkness can still creep in. We need God’s presence daily to sustain us.
Here are five truths to hold onto, especially when the weight of depression presses down.
1. God Understands Our Feelings of Despondency
In times of struggle, it’s easy to think we’re all alone. But God knows our pain, and He is close to us in it.
Psalm 34:18 reminds us, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
God is with us in our sadness, even when we don’t feel it. He knows exactly how we feel, and He promises never to leave us.
2. Jesus Offers Hope that Transcends Our Circumstances
In my journey, the moments I’ve felt most hopeless were the moments I needed Jesus the most. His light shines even in our darkest places, reminding us that there is always hope.
John 1:5 says, “The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.”
When we focus on Jesus, even small glimmers of hope can begin to light our way.
3. God’s Word Reminds Us to Count Our Blessings
Depression often makes us see everything through a dim lens. But there’s something powerful about pausing to reflect on our blessings.
Philippians 4:8 encourages us: “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
This season, try to make a gratitude list with your family each week, then read over it when you need a pick-me-up. Naming the things we’re thankful for brings small rays of joy into our hearts.
4. We Can Take Practical Steps to Care for Our Mental Health
For those of us who feel the heaviness of SAD, or Seasonal Affective Disorder, or who suffer from clinical depression, there are practical steps that can make a difference. Getting sunlight each day, even if it’s for a short walk, can help lift our spirits. Using light therapy lamps can also help, especially during the darker months. And remember, seeking medical help or counseling when needed is not a lack of faith—it’s taking wise action.
Proverbs 11:14 says, “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.”
Seeking guidance and support is a step toward healing.
5. We’re Never Meant to Walk Alone
Community is powerful, especially during difficult times. If you’re feeling alone, reach out to friends, family, or your church community. Share your struggles, and let them pray for you.
Galatians 6:2 encourages us, “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ.”
In the same way, consider ways you can support others around you who might be struggling, even if it’s just by listening or offering a comforting word. Walking with others on their journey can bring healing to our own hearts.
God walks with us on our journey, too. He is waiting for the opportunity to take your pain. Not only will He replace that darkness with His light, but God will give you something greater than you can imagine: Himself.
Practical Ways to Find Hope and Thankfulness
As homeschool parents, it can be easy to put everyone else’s needs above our own. But caring for our mental and spiritual health is essential if we’re to pour into our families. Here are some simple actions you can take each day to cultivate hope and gratitude.
Start Your Day with Scripture and Gratitude
Begin each morning in God’s Word to focus your thoughts on His promises. Have a family gratitude journal, where everyone can jot down one or two things they’re thankful for each day. Reading these entries together can lift everyone’s spirits.Create Joy-Filled Moments Together
Plan small, uplifting activities, like an indoor “picnic” or a family art night. Enjoying simple moments together brings laughter, which can be a powerful antidote to dark days.Pray Through the Psalms
The Psalms are a treasure of comfort and strength, filled with cries of sorrow, praise, and hope. Reading and praying through them as a family or in your quiet time can bring a fresh sense of God’s nearness.
A New Chapter
Many people face deep, dark bouts of depression, like my good friend Kristen Anderson. I put Kristen’s story of trying to take her life by lying down in front of a train into a book: Life, In Spite of Me. Thankfully, Kristen’s story has a happy ending! Hers is a story of overcoming the dark days with light, one we can all find hope in.
Remember, You’re Not Alone
God’s love is powerful, and His grace is sufficient. If you’re facing dark days right now, know that God is walking beside you. And if you need a little extra help, it’s okay to reach out for support—whether that’s through friends, your church, or a counselor. God works through our communities to bring healing and hope.
P.S. As I said earlier, my depression and dark days were not due to medical issues or chemical imbalances. Please seek help if your dark days are due to a medical need.
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