The Pressure Cooker of Homeschooling
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Finding Peace When Emotions Boil Over
Raise your hand if your homeschool has ever felt like an emotional rollercoaster.
- Epic toddler tantrums? Check.
- Teen eye rolls that could win Olympic gold? Double check.
- Your own stress-induced chocolate binges? Been there, devoured that.
You are so not alone.
I remember one particular Monday. The dishwasher was humming, math books were open, and my youngest was crying over phonics while my teenager stormed off because I “just didn’t get it.” And me? I was hiding in the pantry, tears mingling with the last of the chocolate chips. It felt like I was failing them all.
But in that pantry, I whispered a prayer, and the still, small voice reminded me: “Peace isn’t the absence of chaos. It’s My presence within it.”
And friend, if you’re in that place today, this post is for you.
Understanding the Roots of Emotion (And 10 Minutes to Peace)
Before we can respond to emotional meltdowns, we need to understand them. Kids act out not just to push buttons, but because they feel unheard, overwhelmed, or just plain human.
Our children may be struggling to process big feelings they don’t have words for yet. Their brains are still developing, and what seems like defiance is often a cry for help or connection. (Yes, kids do want to connect with us!)
Sometimes, their behavior is a reflection of what’s going on underneath the surface—fear, insecurity, or frustration they can’t explain.
When a child throws a fit over math or loses it during reading time, it’s rarely just about the numbers or the book. It’s about how they feel in that moment—confused, frustrated, or disconnected. And when we see the emotion behind the behavior, we can respond with compassion instead of control.
Parents? When we are exhausted, we often react. We react when our to-do list towers and our expectations (of them and ourselves) are sky-high. The result? Emotions erupt. And not always in cute, Instagrammable ways.
We can start by changing how we think about our kids and our goal.
- Our kids aren’t problems to fix. They’re people to guide. That changes everything, doesn’t it?
- Our goal isn’t perfect behavior—it’s teaching them how to handle life, and building emotional resilience is part of that.
How do we do this? First, we take a closer look at the heart behind the problem. We can also see emotional outbursts or struggles as neon signs pointing to areas where they need discipleship.
When we shift from punishment to discipleship, we’re doing more than managing behavior. We’re shaping hearts. God reminds us of this truth in Proverbs 15:1 (NL), “A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.”
Gentleness with our children doesn’t mean weakness. It’s not allowing ourselves to be trampled on. It’s strength under control.
Gentleness means choosing to set the tone in your home, not just react to it. Think of it this way: A thermometer only reacts to the temperature around it. If things get hot, it rises. If things cool down, it drops. It’s controlled by its environment.
But a thermostat sets the temperature. It decides what kind of atmosphere there will be. When you choose gentleness—even when emotions are high—you’re being a thermostat. You’re saying, “This is going to be a peaceful place, no matter what’s happening.”
When we stay calm and consistent, even in the chaos, our kids start to learn how to find their own calm, too. They learn by watching us. We’re not just managing a moment—we’re modeling emotional stability they can carry into the future.
Our calm attitude also brings regulation—just like a mother does when she shushes a fussy baby. When we stay steady, our kids learn how to find their calm, too. They also learn how to do this through life—which is one of the best things they can learn in homeschool!
In Faith That Sticks (a book I co-authored with my dear friend Leslie Nunnery), we talk about how faith becomes part of the rhythm of everyday life—yes, even in the messy moments. Especially in the messy moments.
We teach kids to trust God, not just through Bible lessons, but in how we respond when things go sideways. Sticky moments make for sticky faith. These are things kids will carry with them into adulthood.
Final Encouragement
Friend, if today felt like a pressure cooker, know this: God isn’t surprised by your struggles. He’s in them.
You’re not a bad mom because emotions boiled over. You’re a real mom, doing sacred work. And next time things get heated, pause and whisper this prayer: “Lord, make my answer gentle. Make my heart resilient. Let my faith stick.” You’ve got this. Better yet, God’s got you.
Want more encouragement like this?
Check out Faith That Sticks — practical, grace-filled tools for building a home where faith and love stick around for the long haul. Because even in the hard days, your homeschool is holy ground.
Resources
Looking for a book you can enjoy together as a family? Try this one!
Also, here’s a great resource to create a screen-free family reading or devotional time.
Looking for more parenting tips? Check out Faith that Sticks!
