When Social Gets Salacious
By Sabrina McDonald
While trying to avoid some much-needed housework, I chose to browse my social media feed. I surfed past the usual political memes and ridiculous number of ads, hunting for an authentic post from a friend.
I finally found one, but it made me wince. Someone posted a picture of an attractive (younger) actor and commented on how lusty he was.
Then she tagged her husband in it.
I had to wonder, how would she feel if her husband tagged her in a picture of a foxy movie star and fawned over it?
I can tell you how I would feel. That sexy pout would be tacked on our kitchen wall with a hundred darts in it, waiting for my husband to walk in the door!
Somehow amidst the web of free sexual expression, the objectification of women in entertainment, and the rejection of “prudish” purity, women are more outwardly sexualized than ever.
And it isn’t helping us.
I can hear someone out there saying, “OMG, you are so overreacting. It wasn’t a big deal!”
Sure, this was a little thing, but little things are the stepping stones of life. It’s a slippery slope.
As the Bible reminds us, thoughts turn into actions. Did you know that Jesus said lusting after someone is the same as having an affair with that person (Matthew 5:28)? It’s the intentions of our hearts that matter, not just our actions, and those intentions have consequences.
Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth remarks in Becoming God’s True Woman: “It is so important to guard our steps and our choices in the ‘little things.’ The places we go, the books and magazines we read, the music we listen to, the entertainment we watch—these things either fuel our flesh or they nurture our spirit.”
It’s the same for marriage. The little things we do can either hurt or help. Where are your stepping stones leading your relationship?
The good stuff: Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. (Romans 12:2)
Action points: Look back on your social media posts. Do they honor your spouse or shame them? Think about where your thoughts wander throughout the day. Are these thoughts helping or hurting your marriage? What are some little things you can change to make an impact in your marriage?
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